Can You Be Too Honest?

We all claim that we want good, honest relationships. Honesty is the foundation upon which everything else is built, isn't it? Of course! But is it possible to be too honest?

What if your new lover tells you that whilst he really likes having sex with you, you're not the best? Is your first thought, "I'm so sorry, darling, what is it that I could do better?" This question may evoke replies that involve ping pong balls or the gymnastic abilities of an olympic champion or perhaps jaw-unhinging secrets previously only known to snakes. Be prepared.

Or would you be in the "F*ck You!" camp as you hastily retrieve your clothing from the floor, running through the door with your bra in your bag and your dignity in bits?

Or perhaps you would just be quietly but deeply hurt, your confidence in tatters and your future bedroom performance impeded by feelings of inadequacy?

If you're in this latter group, have you considered that you might not want to be the best if his idea of the best is based upon athletic performance and under-the-counter porn film moves?

So, what if you are honest with him? How do you think he would respond if you told him your ex did that thing with the tongue a lot better than he does, or admitted (under duress only, of course) that he wasn't the biggest in the err... cold meat department? You got it, he wouldn't like it. And you would be on some kind of relationship suicide mission to say anything like that.

And how much honesty is there in faking an orgasm? Enough said!

So back to my question, can you be too honest? Well I guess it depends on what we're being asked to be honest about. Honesty can be a very blunt instrument, a weapon of mass destruction. When in doubt, always remember, be careful what you wish for and ping pong balls can be hard to find!