Sex With Ex

Sex with the ex. Yes, we've all done it, come on admit it. A few drinks, mobile phone in hand and the next thing you're gettin it on. But why? If you broke up, then it was for a reason, why would you keep going back there again.

Phil has regular sex with his girlfriend. She finished with him after he said that he was moving away but she keeps asking him to come round, has her naughty way with him and then throws him out in the morning. "It's absolutely fantastic. I get all the good bits but without the responsibilites and the compromises."

But what is she getting out of it? Sex with someone you know can be absolutely great, no fears about your body or what your partner likes, no pressures, and if both partners know the rules, no awkward discussions about who is going to phone and when. Perfect.

Except that it is just a way of delaying moving on. Sex with ex is safe. Safe means you are staying in your comfort zone, you're on the treadmill jogging along, hamster-like and getting nowhere. And are you trying to convince yourself that it is just the sex you want or are you really just clinging on to that emotional connection with someone you trust, scared to let go. After all, the one that did the leaving will still be wondering if they made the right decision and the one who was left behind will probably take whatever is on offer, hoping that things will change.

For the laziest of us, it's the easy option but what is more exciting than the first kiss, the first stroke of the arm, the long, lingering looks.
Sure, 'friendship with benefits' is great but nothing can equate with the thrill of the new!

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Getting back with your ex might be the last thing on his mind. If he has moved on with his life then there is nothing left to do.